The “Just enough” factor


There is something that men do that women either don’t understand or they ignore. I like to call it the “Just enough” factor. I had an enlightening moment while talking to a friend of mine about his friend whom I had been dating off and on for around 4 years. He called it that. He told me his friend does just enough. He does the bare minimum to keep me around. Its almost like the theory of “break you down, build you up” that the military employs in order to indoctrinate their soldiers. He disappoints you time and time again and then right when you think you have had enough, you are finished, never going to talk to him again; he does or says something nice. Its nothing major, not a huge act, but it is “just enough.” He spends all of this time being a constant disappointment just to one day tell you how great you are and that he loves you. Then the next day he is back to his usual behavior. Well ladies the veil has been lifted! If this sounds familiar to you then you are starting to see. I know what your are thinking. You are saying to yourself “he does really love me” “No one understands how we feel about each other” “Its different with us.” IT’S NOT DIFFERENT! You are not the exception, YOU ARE THE RULE. The only reason you have to say things like that to yourself is to justify the exact behavior I have described. For future reference they are not the one, and more importantly YOU ARE NOT THE ONE FOR THEM. You never will be and no matter what you say or do if they really liked you, loved you, wanted to be with you, they would. That being said……….Have a great day! LOL go on and find someone who likes you and expect more for yourself.



One response to “The “Just enough” factor

  1. Reblogged this on Ganja Vibes and commented:
    Keep it simple.

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